THE QUESTION OF LOVE

I have somehow failed miserably in my attempts to be firmly committed to a certain familial conjugality, because for one thing, though I do take to certain preferences or practical possibilities, these are not exactly dependent on any absolute hierarchy in values that I ascribe to people, but to say a practical liking for a certain uniqueness, which somehow fits me more than others. What would be the real situation then for those people who take to such a new form of association or cohabitation? Love, let us say is a trait that can exist between almost anybody in spite of certain antagonisms of interest, and can in no way be confined to the conjugal love between two partners to the exclusion of all others. This means that though there maybe practical difficulties, all friendly relationships and possibly even antagonistic ones, taking the injunction to love your enemy also, are bound by love. In such a condition life itself could be a trip into developing these possibilities for love towards a maximum and pleasurable state without bothering to delimit it to one or two primary relationships. This is also useful and valuable for the relationships which could each attain conditions of good health and thrive well, without destroying each other. But the institutionalized relationships of the family etc., would reduce this possibility of mutual exchange and cultural hybridity and destroy the possibility of the maximization of the true love and the possible give and take such a condition could evoke. The possibilities of short term relationships cannot be altogether foregone, but it is always good to keep each relationship in an open and developing state so that the simple break ups and reunions are not too painful. The creative possibilities of such thinking and loving can only be decisively explored where exploitation cannot exist, which can only be ensured through opening up the already open relationships. How does conjugal love accommodate in its space the other, the third or fourth person who is always there, and is also one with god? This is the tough fact that then implicates and troubles the institution of marriage, bound by its nuclear form, and the need towards a more specific and at the same time generalized transaction in love, which I would say, the world has to undertake.